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Posted by on Apr 28, 2017 in dating, Uncategorized |

Fell in love online

 

I must be one of the luckiest London in the world. Unlike so many other girls at https://charlotteaction.org, I don’t have a problem holding down a relationship at all. Believe it or not, I actually fell in love online and we get on so great. We are both really into Second Life online. I know it is game and not real life, but there is something which makes it seem really real to me. The persona I am in love with is a member of the online gaming community, and we seem to have so much in common.

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Yes, I know that he is not really real, but to me he seems real. To be honest, I don’t really care that my friends at London think that I am a bit crazy. At the end of the day I think that we are all characters in a game. It does not matter if it is in cyberspace or on in the real world. I have actually met some nice people in real life, but I have met some nicer people in cyber space.

 

I keep on wondering how many other people feel like me. Most of the girls are not into Second Life at all, but I do a couple of male London who are into Second Life. Sometimes we meet up in cyberspace and have a chat. It is interesting to note how some of their personality is reflected in their Second Life characters. I do actually put a lot of effort into my Second Life character as well. It is kind of neat to think that this cyber person is partially me.

 

Why did I get addicted to Second Life? I do like to go out and socialize after I finish my shift at London. But, at the same time, there is a very private side to me as well. It is nice to check out on real life from time to time, and do something different. That is the way that I look at Second Life. I am in privacy of my own home, and I get a chance to be myself. Well, I am not really myself online, but I am a character which is rather similar to me.

 

I have told a couple of gents about Second Life and they have promised to check it out. One of them has joined up, and we have had a couple of dates in Second Life. It was a really cool experience. Of course, when I date my gents from London on Second Life, I am a different character. At the moment, I have go three characters going but I am thinking about establishing a fourth characters. She will be a wicked dominatrix who dresses up as a troll. I keep on wondering if somebody would get turned on by my troll dominatrix. They certainly seem to enjoy the characters that I have created so far, and I have this feeling that they, my gents, would like my new character.

 

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Posted by on Apr 17, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

5 Steps for Finding Freedom from Porn and Masturbation

xxxchurch - 5 Steps for Finding Freedom from Porn and MasturbationLife would be so much easier if there were a big ole ‘recover from porn and masturbation addiction’ button lying around, wouldn’t it? I know given the chance, many of us would hit that baby so hard it would crush under our enthusiasm. Or maybe frustration is a better word…

But alas, if it exists, it remains a mystery! That’s what brings you here. But, I bring good news, my friend! There is in fact, a big, red button! …It just looks a little different than you may have imagined.

Instead of slamming down on a shiny hunk of plastic, all you’ve got to do is be a STARR:

See you’re not alone,
Tell someone,
Get Accountable,
Recognise pain,
Restore intimacy.

These are five simple statements that will lead you into finding freedom from porn and masturbation. Let’s zoom in on what they mean.

1. See You’re Not Alone

The biggest lie addiction feeds you is ‘you are alone! If anyone knew, they’d be disgusted!’

Not true.

Check out the stats. Chances are, someone (well, a lot of someone’s) in your life, and in your church are struggling too.

Women are especially vulnerable to this lie. They can feel drained of their femininity and balk in the face of struggling with ‘a guy’s issue.’ But remember, one in three visitors to adult websites are female, and between thirteen and twenty percent of Christian women consider themselves addicted! You are far from alone.

This ministry wouldn’t exist if you were the only man or woman struggling. But here we are. Let that sink in.

2. Tell someone:

The Bible refers to Satan as the ‘Father of Lies.’ He works best in the dark where there is no one to rebuke him. When you confess your struggle, you shed light on that dark place and open a space where truth can be spoken! When you tell someone and are accepted, it flies right in the face of the lie ‘You are not worth loving’. It is a taste of the grace of God.

If it were possible to get free on your own, you wouldn’t be here, would you?

Recovery is a team effort. As Craig Gross says, a good story requires more than one character!’

3. Get Accountable:

You need someone on the outside to speak clarity. Your brain is on autopilot, so you need someone to remind you, ‘You don’t actually want this, remember?!’ in those clouded moments of lust. This means having someone you can text or call at any time (even those crazy hours of the morning) when temptation strikes, meeting regularly (over coffee, Skype or phone) to share victories and struggles, using accountability software or joining a group. Accountability means brutal honesty and vulnerability. But it also means freedom.

4. Recognize Pain:

Sexual addiction is an intimacy disorder. Think of yourself as a tree. The fruit is the behavior you exhibit. But apples don’t just grow out of nothing, do they? Their life-force is in the roots. Those who fight sexual compulsion often have their roots in trauma, abuse, abandonment or some other form of ruptured intimacy. Healing comes when you recognize those hidden triggers. It can help to delve into these issues with a mentor, counselor or recovery group. Without dealing with the root, you’ll never heal the fruit.

5. Restore Intimacy:

Recovering from addiction isn’t about cutting something out of your life. It’s about adding to it!

This addition is threefold: With yourself, your community and your God.

Self-intimacy isn’t as inappropriate as it sounds! This means self-love and self-care. When was the last time you believed you deserved to be pampered? Be gentle on yourself, nourish your soul and allow yourself a treat!

Community is vital because shame is isolating. It stops you from engaging with the world like you used to. Community is a healing way to re-enter reality. Enjoy sports, hobbies, activities, church or just having semi-regular coffee with some friends. They will start breathing freedom and hope into your lungs.

Of course, true and lasting intimacy is with God. He knows every image and temptation you’ve faced. And he likes you. He enjoys you! Connect with him however you can, whether that means swearing, running, singing badly, reading theology books or sitting on a beach with him in silence. He longs to come near and hold your heart.

The Bible talks about shining like stars; I’ll bet my hermeneutics are off, but you’ll sure as heck start shining when you use this process of being a STARR. That big, red ‘recovery’ button may not be as far off as you think. Get to it.

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Posted by on Apr 11, 2017 in Uncategorized |

The Perfect Orpington Companion

 

If you are planning a trip to Orpington, you may be looking for the perfect companion as well. Orpington is not only one of the biggest tourist hot spots in the world, but it is also a busy center for business travelers. More business travelers arrive in Orpington on a daily basis than other capital city around the world. The world of the business traveler can be a lonely one, and many business men do look for companions during their stay in Orpington. Orpington has so much to offer like the girls at https://charlotteaction.org/orpington-escorts, and it is a shame to be on your own when visiting this unique city. There are a variety of agencies that can be of help, and you will find escorts from all around the world work in Orpington.

Booking in advance

If you are planning to book a companion during your stay in Orpington it is important to start making arrangements as soon as possible. The girls do get booked up very quickly so to avoid disappointment try to book as soon as you can. If you are a traveler looking for more exotic pleasures, it is absolutely crucial that you book early. Try using premium agencies as they will always have the best and the most beautiful girls available. They will also offer broader services, and you are more likely to be matched with a suitable girl should you choose one of the premium agencies. Agency employees are always very helpful and discreet and will do their utmost to help you find the girl of your choice. It is also very important that you are honest and explain what you expect from your companion. Booking a companion when you travel to Orpington can make a really big difference to your visit. You will probably see more of the city this way and you will also be able to enjoy many of the pleasures which this amazing place has to offer. The girls in Orpington are one of a kind and some are very exotic. If you would like to try something Japanese in Orpington, I am sure there is a companion waiting for you.

Reasons to book

There are many reasons why you should consider booking escorts when you are visiting Orpington. Many of the girls are extremely beautiful and really do appreciate their clients. Most Orpington based escorts know this wonderful vibrant city inside and out, and will be happy to show you around. You will find that many of them have their own favorite places which they like to recommend, but they are equally keen to explore something new.

Services Provided

Orpington escorts provide many different types of services, and both incalls and outcalls are available. Many of the girls have centrally located apartments which are easy to find for a visitor, and most of them are located near or close to many of the luxury hotels. Orpington is a popular part of town, and you will find many escorts based in this area. Other parts of town such as Canary Wharf are more up coming, but you can certainly find services available in this part of town as well.

 

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Posted by on Mar 27, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Death by 1,000 Little Cuts

little-cutsThere once existed a now-outlawed form of execution in China called, Ling Chi, or slow torture. This form of execution was given to the worst of offenders with this idea: none of the wounds were fatal, but they were all powerful when added together.

Sadly, we’ve given our society a different sentence, with the same execution. A recent study from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that “regular porn users are more likely to report depression and poor physical health than nonusers are . . .” Why?

If sex is only a biological urge, how on earth does looking at naked pictures eventually make you sick and depressed? Maybe the reason goes much deeper than you think.

A headline on CNN’s website caught my eye: “The Demise of Guys.” The article was co-written by a psychologist named Dr. Philip Zimbardo, a professor emeritus at Stanford University, whose research sounded the alarm about what pornography and video games are doing to young men today.

According to his research, the young men who play video games and use porn the most “are being digitally rewired in a totally new way that demands constant stimulation,” causing a condition he calls “arousal addiction.” He explained that while traditional addictions cause a person to crave more of the same substance (more cocaine, more alcohol), people addicted to porn and video games need more of something different: games that are increasingly more intense, or porn that is increasingly darker.

Cut by cut, this obsession causes many to sacrifice their schoolwork and relationships in the pursuit of their need for a buzz. Not one of the games or visits to a porn site were the demise of these young men — but added   together each event contributes to a life spiraling out of control. Death by a thousand cuts.

Over time, exposure to pornography makes you incapable of being sexually turned on without it. Our world calls it “innocent”, “normal” even. What most don’t see is what it does on the inside.

An April 2016 cover story in Time magazine explained how many young men (and women too) in America believe porn has wiped out their ability to have actual intercourse with a person right there in front of them.

Porn doesn’t make sex better; it makes it worse. You can’t spend hundreds of hours looking at thousands and thousands of naked, airbrushed, artificial, young bodies, and then expect to be satisfied with one real, imperfect, aging person when you get married.

If you are hooked on pornography when you’re single, you will bring your addiction into your marriage, and it will rot out your relationship from the inside out.

Of course, this wasn’t God’s design for our sex lives. He’s not trying to keep us from the pleasures of sex, in fact it’s quite the opposite: He wants us to have amazing sex!

But unfortunately, when you take what God has told you not to touch it can keep you from experiencing what He wants you to have.

Instead, we must “make a covenant with [our] eyes not to look with lust” (Job 31:1 nlt). It’s not “no” it’s just “not now” if you aren’t married yet.

The good news is that despite choices you may have made up to this point, from this day forward you can make a commitment to strength and honor. Your current present will someday become your past, make it one your future self will thank you for.


Levi Lusko is the pastor of Fresh Life Church (a multisite church in Montana and Utah that he and his wife Jennie pioneered in 2007), and the founder of Skull Church and the O2 Experience. He is the author of the new book, Swipe Right: The Life-and-Death Power of Sex and Romance and Through the Eyes of a Lion: Facing Impossible Pain, Finding Incredible Power. He serves as host for Greg Laurie’s Harvest Crusades and travels the world speaking about Jesus

Download a sample of the book here for FREE!

 

 

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Posted by on Mar 24, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Friday Rant: Sex Is Not a Chore

sex-not-chore-blog[Note: On Fridays we sometimes post new rants from one of our writers, edited only for typos and spelling. This new series is not for those easily offended or for those who only like to play nice. So read this before you start posting your comments.]

First, let me start by saying this post does not apply to anyone in an abusive relationship. If you are in one, please get the help you need in order to better your situation. This post is for the average, run of the mill marriage.

Second, I am a married woman that struggled with this issue. The more I learn my old way of thinking about sex is incorrect, the more I realize that sex is intended to intimately and wonderfully connect a husband and wife in a way nothing else can. (Aside from God of course!) I want you and your husband to experience the full, loving, gracious, joy-filled marriage that God intended.

Now, let’s talk about sex.

Ladies, this one is for you. Listen closely, sex is NOT a CHORE! Stop treating it that way.

So many times we have seen a married couple portrayed as the husband wanting sex and the wife continually acting annoyed because of it. Picture it, the husband and wife are laying down in bed and the husband tries to initiate sex with the wife. The wife turns to him, rolls her eyes and say “You’re kidding, right?”. That is not healthy. That is not funny. That is not marriage. STOP doing that.

Women, sex is for you too! Sex is not just for the men in our lives. Sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both male and female together. I’m pretty sure that is how God intended it from the beginning. Stop making excuses and start trying to get this right.

The most common excuse that I hear women say is they are tired. We are all tired. Get over it. Trust me on this one. I am a mother of three children under the age of eight. I AM TIRED. This is not an excuse. If you are too tired to be intimate with your husband, something else in your life needs to change. Ditch the T.V. show before bed, put the kids to bed earlier, find a way.

Here’s the truth, your marriage NEEDS to be the priority.

Listen, your children are wonderful. Your job is fantastic. Your hobbies are great and I love T.V. too. I get it. I am there sometimes too. So this is going to be hard to hear: your children, your job, your hobbies and especially television are not your first priority. Some of those are big ones, but not your first one.

x3-fighting-for-my-marriage-facebook-10If you’re a Christian, God is the first priority. Do you know what’s after God? Your husband is. Nothing else.

Chances are that your husband loves you. Even though it may not be what you want at the time, chances are that he shows that love through wanting to be with you physically. With that said, every time that you reject being with him, you are rejecting his love for you. You are rejecting his connection to you. You are crushing his self-esteem. You are rejecting him. When this happens one too many times, your marriage starts crumbling. You grow apart. And once it’s just you and your husband and you’re both retired after the kids leave, guess what, you have no real marriage.

This can all be avoided if you allow yourself to enjoy sex with your husband! I know, I know that many of you are thinking “He doesn’t help enough”, “He doesn’t say the right things”, “He isn’t emotionally available like I want him to be”. I get it. Here’s the thing though, YOU cannot change your husband. You can pray for your husband. However, YOU can only change YOU. Start by changing the way you think about sex. Start by allowing your husband to please you.

I used to be there. I used to reject my husband a lot. I have seen the difference in our marriage, friendship and life now that I have a better perspective on sex. I realized that my husband wants to connect with me and when I am receptive to him when it comes to sex, he is more available to connect emotionally. And let’s not forget that the sex is just flat out great!

Women, when you have sex with your husband and truly enjoy it, not treating it like a check on your list, you want to have more sex. Guess what happens after that? Sex gets better, your relationship with your husband gets better, your marriage gets better and then, before you know, your life gets better.

So stop asking how many times a man NEEDS to have sex. Stop treating sex like one more chore on your checklist. Start thinking about your husband. Start making your husband the priority. Start thinking about sex like an opportunity to make your marriage amazing! You will see miracles happen.

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